It's a thing where it's not a thing... you see it?

There is a saying that says opposites attract... That's often true but my recent experience proved otherwise. Kelly was riding the wave of little kid in the candy store. You see something you love, you pick it and eat it... you see another thing you love... you pick it and eat it. It became such a routine I was bored of eating candy... not until I came across this candy store where the sweets were kept in this opaque jar. All I knew was there were sweets in there... I had no clue of kind of sweets where in there not to mention if they were tasty or not! At this point I was bored of eating sweets so I wasnt so keen on knowing what sweets where in the jar but out of curiosity I just kept probing... and like you'd guessed I still aint seen the sweets in the jar. While I was in this sweet shop I saw the ice-cream van drive by, the ice-cream looked juicy, I ran after the ice-cream van... but then there was this persistent thought in my head about what could be in that jar. For all I know it could be empty... all I've been told was that there were sweets in the jar. I gave up on chasing the ice-cream van and headed back into the sweet shop... and yet I still wasnt allowed to see the sweets!!! At this point I had made up my mind I wanted the sweets in the jar and nothing else... at this point I had made the assumption that whatever sweet was in the jar, it must be the best ever sweet in the world to be kept under such conditions... This was the beginning of Kelly's downward spiral...

"Lesson 1: Never get yourself in a situation where you feel you need something or someone!"

Her name is Karen. If anyone had told me Karen would be the one to clip Kelly's ever soaring wings... I would have laughed out loud. When I met Karen I had walked past her over a dozen times and never even noticed her until I was leaving the party. Even when I noticed her, I didnt notice her for her looks... I only noticed her because she was standing right next to the person I was talking to. I didnt the quick Kelly scan... "Not my type!" I thought. She wasnt wearing what a Kelly chic would wear so on first appearances I had ruled her out. The next few minutes changed the course of my life for the following seven months... I got hold of her number... I text her the next morning... nothing special just a "good morning" text... and trust me that's all it read... she text me back... she remembered me... good thing. Next thing... I text her saying I met some girl the other day and she looks kinda alright... but I dont know if it's worth getting to know her... (You see the game there? Moving to a girl is like a sales conversation... one person buys something at the end of the day.... either she buys the idea of you being the next big thing in her life and she agrees to be your subject of attention... OR SHE SELLS YOU THE FACT THAT SHE DOESNT GIVE A CRAP ABOUT WHAT YOU SELLING... there is always a close! in this case look at the sequence of the conversation...

Karen: Alright looking? I dont think that's good enough for you... you should move on.
Kelly: Move on? (me being a poker head!).... Are you bluffing because I just might call your bluff?
Karen: Bluff? I dont bluff luv.
Kelly: In that case... I fold... I won't move on.

You see it? If that was game of poker.. I would have lost the pot to her! I knew what cards I was packing... I'm Kelly! I got this whole game on lock... this was a girl I didnt even think was all that and I just lost he mind game...

"Lesson 2: There is no such thing as a minor loss!"

Every battle counts! At this point I was still on the riding on the assumption that she was playing games... what if she wasnt? makes things a lot more different! I was so sure of this that I ruled out the possibility of her not playing games... remember... she wasnt a big deal to me so I thought this would have been a minor job... but boy was I wrong... with every loss (and trust me I was losing big here...) I kept on raising the stakes... like an addictive gambler... betting enough to win back my previous loses... I was engrossed in her... in her game... in her world... I was in too deep to pull out... Kelly had always been a winner... and now I was turing to a loser... I wasnt going to make her the one who got away... I was breaking all the rules in the sugarlounge manual... remember the seven signs tos how a girl is not on it? i.e. she wouldnt return your calls...? I knew all this in my head but I kept on thinking... let me break the bank for this job and I'll gain my reputation back.... JUST THIS ONE! Turned out to be a turn of no return!ed into her own little world and she wasnt taking no prisoners...

"Lesson 3: Before you walk into a room ensure there is an exit door!"

I had dumped all my strategies... (obviously because they werent working with this one!)... I went caveman on her... brute force... all in... did it work? Er... NO! She was killing me... Kelly had finally met her match... this first ever Kelly chic... all the previous Kelly chics have all been the outside stuff... dressing and countenance... Karen had it inside of her... she wasnt weak like the other girls... she was independent... I never appreciated her beauty until the day I finally went out with her!!! (note the word FINALLY!!! this was like almost two months after I met her...)... remember the saying difficult chics are the sweetest...??? We eventually went on this date... it was so surreal... because to me this was an achievement... a landmark... a milestone in my quest for Karen's heart... Trust me being Kelly... all I need was one date... I usually got through the gate after the first date... WHICH I THOUGHT I DID... We did all the right things... I treated her like a lady... and everything in the sugarlounge book about treating a lady... the compliments... I had it covered... I thought I had won the battle.. when she said I was an 8/10... to me I was the happiest man in the world... I was like... the hard work was well worth it... She had finally deserved the crown to be Kelly's girlfriend... that is no cheap title... it wkes hard work... ask Louise, Marie, Ameire, Amy... it was no easy fit... At the stage... I had been so hit by Karen's charm... I was carrying her banner high... and after all this five months of summer love... what was her say?

"elly... I dont know if I like you... I like you 100% as a friend but I dont wanna rush into anything... cause that's not the way I do things..."

WHAT??? Kelly has been given the "Let's just be friend's" line??? The last time I got that line was like four years ago... and the girl who said that ended up eating her words she was told me we should take things to the "next level".... and what was my answer...? "I'm not quite sure if I wanna go to the next level... I pretty like it here in the garden..." Afterall I was getting all the benefits a guy in the palace gets... only that I was a free man... she wanted to lock me down... but back then that seemed to far off... but four years on... I wouldnt have thought any girl would say that to me... Now that Karen had said it... will she one day eat her words? I still want Karen... and it's a thing where I know I will get here... because Kelly never loses at the end of the day... I still got more chips... and I'll give on raising the stakes until the day she says "Let's take it to the next level..." and by then the size of the pot will be so fat, I will be grinning like a cheshire cat...

"Karen.... it's a thing whre it's not a thing... You see it? You see it?"


Kelly

The Badboy, lover and Friend

This week had passed by so quickly, i mean, the weekend was here already. It's real funny how so many things can happen in one week, i mean, i met Stacey and got to know a whole lot about her in the space of only a couple of days. I like to analyse, you know? i like to see what your working with. Not a lot of guys these days have this mentality, many are very rushy, and as soon as they see a pretty lady, they don't even think of what they are doing and just jump at the chance. I'm not saying this is wrong but ok.....there are two sides to it 1.DESPARATION:these are the type of brothers that just feel that they HAVE to say something, i mean, can't you just look at a girl in admiration and think about moving to her? hehe....believe it or not, i find it very easy. Back to the topic....2.SPONTANEOUS....i mean, this is very different from the desperation aspect of the scenario, ladies you love this and you can't deny it...If a guy from nowhere was to just come up to you, say, not in a club but somewhere like a wedding and he comes out of nowhere with these slick lines that you have never heard b4(i mean NEVER) and he blows you off ur feet, ur gonna be impressed right?....well the spontaneous side can be a very useful 'strategy' for the non-analysts, as i'd like to call them. It's so very true you know...why do 90% of ladies tend to for 'bad-boys'? This doesn't nessecarily have to be the typical "2 gunz up" bad boy, but instead he lives life more on the edge than the average guy..my idea of the 'bad-boy' knows how to be bad in the right situations....hehe....

Here are some major characteristics in which 'bad-boys' hold....1. they are never predictable...2.they are never available...3..shows leadership...and most important, always carry car keys even though u don't have a car..hehe JOKES!!!!(i know u girls are thinking SCRUBB..hehe)...ladies don't be fooled, you see them car keys 'that guy' that chirpsed(chat up) you always carries around, have you ever stopped to ask him "can i see your car?" don't be suprised if those keys are for a bicycle lock..hehe..Just like the 'bad-boy' there's always the the typical lover aka 'sweetboy' and the classing friend(i hate this)...i'm assuming some of you already know what this is if you have been reading sugarlounge for quite a while but if not, let me show u a lil' something...

Friend: He is always there for the girl, through the good and bad times. The girl tells him all her man troubles....(IMAGINE!!! I WOULDN'T WANA BE HIM, SHE SHOULD BE TELLING HER GIRLFRIENDS THAT..HEHE)....the friend goes shopping with her, etc...now if the friend was to make a move on this girl...u know what comes next right.."look, i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship...we've grown too close and your like my big/lil brother, you understand don't you"....NO HE DOESN'T!!!lol....the poor brother is probably in love with this girl and is prob broken.

Lover: this is the typical sweetboy kinda brother, he has all of the lyrics, knows how to make make the girl feel like she's the only one in his life. In most cases, the 'lover' boy knows how to lie, his mouth is ver sweet, the girl believes almost everything he says...the candle-lit dinners, quiet nights in, slow dancing, kissing, caressing....these days not a lot of girls are into this, only a handful, then again every girl wants to be loved.right?

BADBOY: To some men, this is the ultimate status, a lot of brothers may never reach this stage, not because they are too weak, but fail to MOVE. If you stay in one place for too long, you will never change, BADBOYS are able to adapt to their environments, they are very flexible with there emotions and can be 'sweet' when they WANT to be....well i believe that with women/young ladies, at a young age, they tend you be more attracted to badboys then rather than when they're older, but i hear girls saying "Nah man i've grown out of that badboy stuff" hehe.."yea right" i think to myself when i hear that. Women will never grow out of there love for badboys, because a relationship without edge is pretty much boring. These days, sugarlounge statistics show that badboys tend to have the most luck with the opposite sex....

As you can see the order in which i described these three factors..as you go down, the guy gets luckier with females, not to say that friendship doesn't work, its jus LOOOONNGGG...and ladies you know this too...that's why most of the girls that i'm close friends with, i do not plan to even go into the SEEING stage according to Rafael's concept..

Here is a lil something that went on in the weekend.......
Me and my boys went out on friday night, it was only three of us though, me, Nathan, and Andrew. Andrew and Nathan were both BADBOYS, no questions asked, they are the true epitome of the 'badboy' chatacter(its more of a way of life..hehe), especially Nathan, he's got so many girls chasing after him, you wouldn't believe it, but BELIEVE IT!!! Me and Nathan go to the same university but Andrew goes to another university in the same city as me and Nathan's so we were all pretty close. We were going to this ACS party, Andrews friend was the organiser and he said we could get in for free...we didn't have anything planned for that night so we just went.

The club was kind of empty at start, but got pretty rammed after a while. Nathan was looking for girls as usual. While they was busy, i had something else on my mind. This beautiful girl standing by the bar....DAMNNN!! She looked really attractive, i mean really, she was one of those turn ur head to break ur neck kina girls(i think thats it anyways). She wore this cardigan style dress with big black and white stripes going across, the dress stopped at her upper thigh, damn she looked hot!!. ...ok now i could see Nathan from the other side of the club looking at her...hehe...i knew what was coming next...now whilst we were all doing our own this, i was still 'analysing' the girl, she was with this guy, in fact they've been together all night and danced a few times....i made the assumption that he was her boyfriend....ok, the boy had left the girl at the bar to go to the dance floor, now, i was with Nathan instead of Andrew and Andrew was nowhere to be found..hehe..before i knew it, he was next to that girl at the bar talking to her....."NOOOOOO", i thought to myself..hehe..anways..i could see Andrew talkin to her for a few seconds, she seemed pretty interested and Andrew did have a big smile on his face, ok now...out of nowhere, this same guy that had been with this girl all night came and grabbed her by the hand and took her away....hehe.....Andrew was in shock, me and Nathan burst out in laughter for minutes...After Andrew had recovered he came back to us. "Bruv, did you just see that?" Andrew shouted. "Yep, i saw some major cockblocking bruv" i replied.

You see COCKBLOCKING is a major issue with girls, im sure y'all would have heard of the issue of the 'butters friend', this is for example girl A is the nice friend and girl B is not as nice as her friend and there's this guy C. Guy C sees girl A in a club, bear in mind, girl A and B are ALWAYS together so Guy C tries to talk to girl A and is spitting some serious bars(lyrics/chat-up lines) and girl A is really feeling the guy. Girl B starts to get a bit edgy and feels left out because she sees this brother has some seriousness to him and may be taking her girlfriend home..hehe so she drops the "girl A, we have to go, let's go, i have to go and get the car" line....what a pitty. A cockblocker is someone stopping someone else from achieving something better than then, in terms of the use of 'cock' in the phrase..im sure y'all know what that mean...hehe

Now..in Andrew's situiation, the guys who took the girl away was the cockblocker....(YES MEN ARE NOW COCKBLOCKING, ITS NOT EVEN FUNNY ANYMORE!!!)....i know u guys may be thinking why is the guy a cockblocker? ....because the girl actually admitted to Andrew that that guy is not her man, in fact she was single for goodness sake..

So....by hearing this...what type person do you think 'the guy' is to that girl? a BADBOY, LOVER, or a FRIEND...YOU DECIDE...

Learn, Criticise, Feel and Enjoy

p.s i am will not be held responsible for mans(sweetboys) who think they can go pulll a fast one on their wifey's and turn badboys overnight and go and try join some street gang. You can still have any of those three attributes and STILL be yourself and the same time..thinka bout it..

Raheem Douglas

After seven months...

You've probably wondered what Kelly's up to? Errr... nothing much, trying to be legit in terms of relationships, you might also want to ask... has he been successful? Hmm... good question... err NO! I feel like a fish that has been out of water for too long. Being the new Kelly isnt easy... trying not to play games even though games had been my philosophy of surviving the brutal dating scene. Come on... if you havent got a set of rules and strategy you adhere to... it's like you walking into a battle without weapons... So over the past few months I've been trying to keep it real.. you know old school... boy meets girl... it's all magic... honesty... and that hasnt worked! I've dated quite a few girls in the past seven months... nothing compared to the months prior to that... but one thing I can say is I've met one or two special ones... and ME trying to be legit I pretty much screwed up everything from the start!!! All we guys get is one chance... you can stay in there hoping you would grow on her... but is that what you really want... some girl to feel pity for you and agree to be your girlfriend only for her to dump you a few months later... But stick with me... I'll show you some things... places where I can see I went wrong so that you dont fall into the same predicament... The question is "To play games or not to play games?" Err... lets wait and see what the answer to that will be...

Kelly

Meet Raheem Douglas

Raheem

As you have seen, i've laid the ground-level foundations of the three stages and concepts of the Gate, Garden and Palace. As time goes by, these concetps will begin to make much more sense. I gave you an example one of my recent experiences at the gate, which was so tricky yet if you think about it, was very easy, from my side anyways. It's not all the time a girl says she likes you and tells you the truth!. There actually was a time when i did not know a thing about all of these concepts to life and all i could relate to was the flesh. Let me tell you a bit about myslef....

Hey, my name is Raheem Douglas, but you can just call me Raheem. I am 18 years of age and still have my whole life ahead of me, at least i hope i do. I'm pretty much compact when it comes to body build, so at least you know i ain't no Tyrese. People say i look like a pretty boy but are later decived and come to realise the reality of the phrase "never judge a book by it's cover". I'm not saying i'm a sly one either but i can be a little spontaneous at times. In terms of dress sense, i'd like to describe myself as class/trendy, i don't follow. I always like to look good and make sure everytime i go out, i look better than decent. Some argue that this is an attribute of Vanity but i guess that's just the way i am.

Like Rafael, i am also at my first year of university and things are looking good for the future in terms of my career prospects. I aim to be the best of the best in all that i do, hence why i am at university to build a foundation .I am studying Computer Technoligies, which is pretty much geeky stuff to you but hey, that's where the money's at, not to mention that i exactly love working with computers. I want to make something of my life.I grew up in south London and i must say i enjoyed my childhood very much. I never really used to be a ladies man you see, but most of my friends that i hanged with back in the day in school used to get all the ladies. I your probably thinking "awww..poor Raheem" but NO! Save me your pity (hehe). In terms of my financial status, let's just say im pretty much comfortable and NO i don't own a set of wheels...(gold-diggers)..hehe..

Ok, i can seriously only say that i've had one RELATIONSHIP in my whole life. You see, i aint one of those sucker-for-love kind of brothers who just jump into things and expects everything to be all rosy..Nah..instead i was always weary and had my guard up, never really took chances and was always scared to make change in accordance with my surroundings/environment. The EVOLUTION concept is very true and very real. Because i wasn't prepared to take risks and make changes to move with my surroundings, that's why i was never really successful with the opposite sex. As years passedi learnt that and i got into my first relationship, i learnt to take more risks, in fact, deciding to go into the relationship was another risk for me entirely.

Grace, her name was. She wasn't one of those girls guys would break their necks for but She had something to her that made her appeal to me and some other guys. Grace showed me so many things i would never imagine, not that she was like my personal tutor or anything but i learnt a lot during the time we was seeing eachother. I thought i had reached the palace with her but little did i know, she was still playing in the Garden. IMAGINE!!!

You will be hearing more about her later(SNITCH!!) heheehe. But that's in the past...University, a whole new life, a whole new experience. I wonder what the Gate, Garden and MAYBE Palace will have in store for me???

Raheem Douglas

Nov, 21 2005

The Gate - Stacey

I have had many experiences at the gate, but let me tell you a bit about one of the most trickiest ones.

Today was going to be an exciting day, i could feel it from the start. You see, there's this girl. Stacey her name was. This girl wasn't exactly super beautiful but there was just something about her(according to the guys). I mean, i've heard so much about this girl and i just wanted to know what all of the hype was about. It was Tina's birthday, so she had invited me and a couple of friends to her party. Tina was my really close friend, i knew her from back in them college days when we used to be in the same class. I don't really indulge in close friend-relationships with females but Tina was one of the exceptions.Ok, the pary, Word goes that everyone is going to be there, everyone including Stacey. This would be my chance to finally get to see what she's all about.

My day went very fast and evening time had already arrived. The darkness had settled in the sky for the night.
The party was like in half an hour so i made sure i took my time, you know, i like to stroll in late to places like that, that way i can catch the attention of whoever i want to see me, in this case it was Stacey. I had time so it was in my hands to make sure i was looking 'fresh2death' as i'd like to call it so i decided to treat myself to a long hot shower with my radox shower gel....it felt SO good. As i got out of the shower i just had to go to my surround sound HI-FI system and turned it on, my usual 'slowjam bible' cd was inside so i turned up the volume slighlty and let the beautiful sound waves of Keith Sweat's "Twisted" fill the the surroundings and air of the luxury apartment in which i posess, very much inside the city. My mobile rang and guess who it was on the caller ID? "Tina". The birthay girl. "Where are you Raheem the party started like half an hour ago" she shouted. "Why is she getting all dramatic?" i thought to myself, i mean, the party is not exactly running away is it? I told her that i'll be there as soon as i can, anytime i said would have been too long so i had to say something, even though i knew to myself that i wasn't really going to be there soon. I wonder why she called me anyway?

I finally finished dressing. I looked good. I wore one of my finest Dolce & Gabbana shirts, jeans from Moss and some sharp Ted Baker shoes. Finishing touches was to add some scent to my body with my 'Diesel Plus Plus' cologne. I know what your probably thinking.....that i am very detailed with my appearance but NO!...looking good is not a 'once-in-a-while thing' its practically a normality. Ok...getting back to the party.... I had to leave my apartment now the party was well under way. I met up With Larry so we made our way there in his car. Larry is one of my closest boys, he's more like a tough guy. Very calm but has the badboy side to him when it comes to the ladies. We finally got to the party and we made an entrance as usual.
The atmosphere was very soulful, the venue was at this spot called Z-Bar, this was the hottest bar/club in the city. We looked around the club for the crowd and i could see Tina and the rest of the crew, Stacey was there too. I went over to where they were chillin, which was near the couch area. "Birthday Girl! looking stunning as usual eyy?" i said to her as i gave her a hug. "Raheemy, you never sieze to amaze me with your dressing do you?" she said. Tina is always going on about my dress sense, how she loves it and how i'm different from other guys, well..my dress sense is part of my charm."This is my friend Stacey" she said as she turned toward Stacey. I knew Tina was up to something, but hey, i wasn't complaining....."Hey" Stacey said. I shook her hand, i didn't want to hug her because i could see one funny guy looking at me. I'm guessing that's was her boyfriend, well, im assuming that's her boyfriend. "Wana Dance" i said to her. Now that guy that was staring at me really looked puzzled now......i wonder what he's thinking? This time everyone else was into their own thing and Tina had went over to talk to Larry, so it was jus me and Stacey(plus that weirdo staring at me). "ummm....okay, only one dance" she said to me as she looked back to the guy, while i took her to the dancefloor. We danced all night, it was so passionate, i mean, it was like we was making love on the dancefloor. We was in our own world. It felt like i had skipped the gate and automatically went in the garden. I mean, could this really be possible?? nahh, its too good to be true.

It was the last track of the night now. Pretty Ricky's "Grind wit me" came on, and that's when things got very naughty. I can't believe this guy was still watching me, can u imagine? it was starting to freak me out now. Anyways, me and this young lady continued right till the end, even when everybody had cleared the dancefloor and cueing at the cloackroom, I MEAN!, the night was ours. Everyone was leaving Z-bar now and me and Larry sparred(met up) outside of the club where we could get a good view of who's coming out, Tina and her batch finally came out and i saw Stacey standing with the geezer that was staring at me. He didn't look very happy at all, i couldn't care less.
The thing is i didn't really want to know what he was to her because that could get in the way of my thinking mode you see. Its just like if say you had an exam tomorrow and someone in your family just died and you was getting hints that maybe that person has died but you know yet you tell yourself that you don't want to know or maybe it's just you just so it doesn't get in the way of your exam, well that's the feeling i was getting...."Bruv go talk to her man, you have nothing to lose" larry gisted. You see, Larry is the type of guy that always tells you to do crazy things but when it comes down to him, he's never up for it. At least i knew what i had to do with Stacey, this was my chance to try and walk through the Gate. So i walked briskly over to where her and the guy was standing. "what bruv are you mad, i'll shoot you" is what i was thinking in my head but that's not my style in realilty, i mean, any other guy would have attacked him by now the way he was looking at me...."how you doing brother" as i shook his hand. "Stacey, i think Tina wants you!" i said to Stacey, trying to put on a serious face, i couldn't help it, i had to lie, i know it's a bad start but it's not a big deal right. "oh ok i'll be over to her in a minute" she said to me....It seemed like she knew i was up to something, i went back across the street to where the rest of us were. I could see Stacey saying something to him, next thing i knew, he kissed her on the lips, said bye to her and went........"NOOOOOOOO" i thought to myself........its either that's her man or she she's some kind of hoochie, then again they could be just friends but NO! friends don't kiss like that. Ok, maybe i'm a bit toooo paranoid and paranoia links to insecurity and i damn no i aint insecure, at least i don't want to become insecure.....

She came over to where we were and i took her away before she could even utter a word to Tina, i didn't want Tina to know what was going on. Obviously she's know sooner or later but not at that point in time.....We went for a nice long walk to get away from the crowd, you know how females act around their friends? always playing roles. Oh yea and boys do it too, and NOT at a smaller scale, even to the same degree that girls 'act up' should i say..

I spent quite a while talking to Stacey and analysing her as i went along, i like to analyse, never judge a book by it's cover. She seemed pretty cool. "So what are you gonna do now, ask for my number right?" she said to me....."WHAT??" i thought to myself. The cheek, i hate it when girls predict what i am going to do. Well i can't blame them with the way guys are always saying the same old lines on and on so girls can obviously memorise our manouvers....STEP YOUR GAME UP FELLAS!!!!! Ok back to Stacey, no way i was too good for that, i have my pride you know. "No i'm not going to ask you for your number, but you can take mine!" At least i didn't show her she was right, i gave her my number instead. I could have been heartless and said that i dont need her number but that's pushing it. "Hmmm....Is that you Raheem? switching it on me now eyy?" she smiled. I took her phone and keyed in my number into the phone, i left the name part empty so she can call me watever she wants, i'm guessing it will be something nice if she doesn't just enter my name. "So was your man there at the party?" i said to her. I just wanted to ask her indirectlty "who even told you i had a man Raheem" she smiled again. I said no more. Just wanted to see if her reply was a yes or no but she gave me another answer. "Well yes i do have a boyfriend and yes he was there" she said. Her smile dropped to a frown when she said that. "You see Raheem, i really feel attracted to you and it's like im mentally cheating on my boyfriend" she said. I wonder where this could be leading to.............................?



Raheem Douglas

Raheem's World: MY WOMEN

There comes a point in a man's life where he begins to learn and discover so many new things about the opposite sex. This goes the same for girls also, or should i say women? I believe i'm at that peak in my life where these issues of 'lovers and friends' are starting to make a lot of sense to me as i learn more and more as life goes on.

All of that is great but let's take to back to the early days, you know, those 'how to be a player' days when guys used to get away with murder and have like 10 different girlfriends and still not get caught. The days when i was such a young innocent boy who never really had any luck with women...its kind of funny because im still young, the difference is that i've learnt so much within the last couple of years, it's only fair to share my thoughts with the world.


There are three stages to a woman’s heart. These can be described as the GATE, GARDEN and the PALACE. Just to break it down for you all who are a bit puzzled at the moment.

The Gate: Many guys can be at the gate in a girls life, I mean, anyone can jus walk up to a girl and talk to her and he is at the Gate, the Gate is the starting point, the beginning, for some this could even be the end because some guys are at a girls gate for so long, this is when they are just talking to the girl for so long and never really get anywhere. Some guys can make it past the gate in just one conversation.

The Garden: Ok, the Garden, you don't really have to special to get into the garden. This is just minor stuff now, you’ve been talking to the girl and there MAY be a possibility that u may have a chance with it her. The garden can be a resting place for most men in a woman’s life.

The Palace: This is simply the woman’s heart. Now only ONE person can get into a woman’s REAL palace anyway. Some may argue that a woman can have more that one man in her palace but that’s not really true, what they think is the Palace, in that case is really the Garden. The palace is a very special place, where true feelings and real emotions are shown and shared. Most guys of these days only want to get into a girl’s garden just to get a lil’ something and then leave, but they just can’t face the fact that they real reason why they don’t go past the garden is that they simply CAN’T and in all 99.9% of the time, this is a very long process that most men just aren’t prepared to go through.

Join me as I take you through the life and times of ‘MY WOMEN’ and how I passed through the GATE, GARDEN and PALACE.

Raheem Douglas