The Badboy, lover and Friend

This week had passed by so quickly, i mean, the weekend was here already. It's real funny how so many things can happen in one week, i mean, i met Stacey and got to know a whole lot about her in the space of only a couple of days. I like to analyse, you know? i like to see what your working with. Not a lot of guys these days have this mentality, many are very rushy, and as soon as they see a pretty lady, they don't even think of what they are doing and just jump at the chance. I'm not saying this is wrong but ok.....there are two sides to it 1.DESPARATION:these are the type of brothers that just feel that they HAVE to say something, i mean, can't you just look at a girl in admiration and think about moving to her? hehe....believe it or not, i find it very easy. Back to the topic....2.SPONTANEOUS....i mean, this is very different from the desperation aspect of the scenario, ladies you love this and you can't deny it...If a guy from nowhere was to just come up to you, say, not in a club but somewhere like a wedding and he comes out of nowhere with these slick lines that you have never heard b4(i mean NEVER) and he blows you off ur feet, ur gonna be impressed right?....well the spontaneous side can be a very useful 'strategy' for the non-analysts, as i'd like to call them. It's so very true you know...why do 90% of ladies tend to for 'bad-boys'? This doesn't nessecarily have to be the typical "2 gunz up" bad boy, but instead he lives life more on the edge than the average guy..my idea of the 'bad-boy' knows how to be bad in the right situations....hehe....

Here are some major characteristics in which 'bad-boys' hold....1. they are never predictable...2.they are never available...3..shows leadership...and most important, always carry car keys even though u don't have a car..hehe JOKES!!!!(i know u girls are thinking SCRUBB..hehe)...ladies don't be fooled, you see them car keys 'that guy' that chirpsed(chat up) you always carries around, have you ever stopped to ask him "can i see your car?" don't be suprised if those keys are for a bicycle lock..hehe..Just like the 'bad-boy' there's always the the typical lover aka 'sweetboy' and the classing friend(i hate this)...i'm assuming some of you already know what this is if you have been reading sugarlounge for quite a while but if not, let me show u a lil' something...

Friend: He is always there for the girl, through the good and bad times. The girl tells him all her man troubles....(IMAGINE!!! I WOULDN'T WANA BE HIM, SHE SHOULD BE TELLING HER GIRLFRIENDS THAT..HEHE)....the friend goes shopping with her, etc...now if the friend was to make a move on this girl...u know what comes next right.."look, i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship...we've grown too close and your like my big/lil brother, you understand don't you"....NO HE DOESN'T!!!lol....the poor brother is probably in love with this girl and is prob broken.

Lover: this is the typical sweetboy kinda brother, he has all of the lyrics, knows how to make make the girl feel like she's the only one in his life. In most cases, the 'lover' boy knows how to lie, his mouth is ver sweet, the girl believes almost everything he says...the candle-lit dinners, quiet nights in, slow dancing, kissing, caressing....these days not a lot of girls are into this, only a handful, then again every girl wants to be loved.right?

BADBOY: To some men, this is the ultimate status, a lot of brothers may never reach this stage, not because they are too weak, but fail to MOVE. If you stay in one place for too long, you will never change, BADBOYS are able to adapt to their environments, they are very flexible with there emotions and can be 'sweet' when they WANT to be....well i believe that with women/young ladies, at a young age, they tend you be more attracted to badboys then rather than when they're older, but i hear girls saying "Nah man i've grown out of that badboy stuff" hehe.."yea right" i think to myself when i hear that. Women will never grow out of there love for badboys, because a relationship without edge is pretty much boring. These days, sugarlounge statistics show that badboys tend to have the most luck with the opposite sex....

As you can see the order in which i described these three factors..as you go down, the guy gets luckier with females, not to say that friendship doesn't work, its jus LOOOONNGGG...and ladies you know this too...that's why most of the girls that i'm close friends with, i do not plan to even go into the SEEING stage according to Rafael's concept..

Here is a lil something that went on in the weekend.......
Me and my boys went out on friday night, it was only three of us though, me, Nathan, and Andrew. Andrew and Nathan were both BADBOYS, no questions asked, they are the true epitome of the 'badboy' chatacter(its more of a way of life..hehe), especially Nathan, he's got so many girls chasing after him, you wouldn't believe it, but BELIEVE IT!!! Me and Nathan go to the same university but Andrew goes to another university in the same city as me and Nathan's so we were all pretty close. We were going to this ACS party, Andrews friend was the organiser and he said we could get in for free...we didn't have anything planned for that night so we just went.

The club was kind of empty at start, but got pretty rammed after a while. Nathan was looking for girls as usual. While they was busy, i had something else on my mind. This beautiful girl standing by the bar....DAMNNN!! She looked really attractive, i mean really, she was one of those turn ur head to break ur neck kina girls(i think thats it anyways). She wore this cardigan style dress with big black and white stripes going across, the dress stopped at her upper thigh, damn she looked hot!!. ...ok now i could see Nathan from the other side of the club looking at her...hehe...i knew what was coming next...now whilst we were all doing our own this, i was still 'analysing' the girl, she was with this guy, in fact they've been together all night and danced a few times....i made the assumption that he was her boyfriend....ok, the boy had left the girl at the bar to go to the dance floor, now, i was with Nathan instead of Andrew and Andrew was nowhere to be found..hehe..before i knew it, he was next to that girl at the bar talking to her....."NOOOOOO", i thought to myself..hehe..anways..i could see Andrew talkin to her for a few seconds, she seemed pretty interested and Andrew did have a big smile on his face, ok now...out of nowhere, this same guy that had been with this girl all night came and grabbed her by the hand and took her away....hehe.....Andrew was in shock, me and Nathan burst out in laughter for minutes...After Andrew had recovered he came back to us. "Bruv, did you just see that?" Andrew shouted. "Yep, i saw some major cockblocking bruv" i replied.

You see COCKBLOCKING is a major issue with girls, im sure y'all would have heard of the issue of the 'butters friend', this is for example girl A is the nice friend and girl B is not as nice as her friend and there's this guy C. Guy C sees girl A in a club, bear in mind, girl A and B are ALWAYS together so Guy C tries to talk to girl A and is spitting some serious bars(lyrics/chat-up lines) and girl A is really feeling the guy. Girl B starts to get a bit edgy and feels left out because she sees this brother has some seriousness to him and may be taking her girlfriend home..hehe so she drops the "girl A, we have to go, let's go, i have to go and get the car" line....what a pitty. A cockblocker is someone stopping someone else from achieving something better than then, in terms of the use of 'cock' in the phrase..im sure y'all know what that mean...hehe

Now..in Andrew's situiation, the guys who took the girl away was the cockblocker....(YES MEN ARE NOW COCKBLOCKING, ITS NOT EVEN FUNNY ANYMORE!!!)....i know u guys may be thinking why is the guy a cockblocker? ....because the girl actually admitted to Andrew that that guy is not her man, in fact she was single for goodness sake..

So....by hearing this...what type person do you think 'the guy' is to that girl? a BADBOY, LOVER, or a FRIEND...YOU DECIDE...

Learn, Criticise, Feel and Enjoy

p.s i am will not be held responsible for mans(sweetboys) who think they can go pulll a fast one on their wifey's and turn badboys overnight and go and try join some street gang. You can still have any of those three attributes and STILL be yourself and the same time..thinka bout it..

Raheem Douglas