March 16, 2005
Hmmm… I’ve noticed too many guys don’t prepare for dates with women, its always best of have a plan in mind before you even think of asking her out!!! Most guys just say… “Do you wanna go you sometimes?” like they are just playing the lottery, you not sure if she’d say yes and you were just wondering and when she says… yeah that’s cool… you say… “So…what do you wanna do…?” Obviously she says “I don’t know!” because she doesn’t know!!!! It’s not her job to arrange the date… IT’S YOUR JOB!!!! You should surprise her and intrigue her….to show her you’ve got something “special” up your sleeve…. Its not her duty to think about where you are going, what time and how she’s going to get there, that’s your job… her job is to say “yes” and turn up on time!!!! Or be fashionable later… not too late for you to think that she’s stood you up!!! I remember going on a date with this girl and I was waiting outside… (Couldn’t go in because her mom was in!!!) And she kept on saying 5 mins, I’ll be out, 5 turned to 10… 10 into 20minutes… I was waiting for a good 30mins…!!! But it was worth it though… we men need to appreciate stuff women do just to please us… making sure every thing on them looks perfect… and its so dumb how so man just don’t say anything…no compliments… just the normal “How come you came out so late…!!!!”… How about… “Hmm… you took your time in there… but I see it was worth it…”… you know the way when a girl gives you a compliment…. Women feel twice better!!!
Okay the date, the cliché is cinema… I think cinema is cool… u get to be with her and you don’t have to say a word to each other… hmmm… not so fun… the cinema is not a great place for the first date… not unless, you’ll grab something to eat before or after the cinema… so you get to talk…. Cinema has been so oversubscribed it’s become a means to getting “piece”… cinema piece is not great anyway!!! The space is too confined and you’ll be disturbing other people… a date is just a meeting arranged in advance… it could be meeting up for lunch, going to a gallery, eating out… or cinema… most guys give an excuse about going other places is long… and that’s a long ting!... no its not… its just a dumb excuse because you being lazy or don’t know the means in doing stuff like… “Reserving a table at a restaurant…” or “booking tickets for an exhibition”… and you need to learn all this stuff… because as you grow older… cinema won’t always cut it!!!
Okay greetings… wherever and whenever you meet a woman on a date…. NEVER SHAKE HANDS!!!! This is no busy meeting in Tokyo or something…. Reach out and touch her arms and draw her gently towards you (GENTLY!!!)… And give her a QUICK!!!!! Peck on the cheek, don’t slobber over her!!! There at least you’ve got a kiss!!! And say something like… “Nice seen you… you look nice…” Don’t forget the 6 things to compliment... obviously don’t mention all the six!!! After all she’s spent forever getting ready… so the least you can do is notice… don’t forget the hair… (that’s if she made an effort…” you look amazing, I love what you’ve done with your hair….”… she’ll smile… people love other people who make them feel special and welcome… and before you know it… she’ll be warming up to you!!!!
Body language!!! Pay attention to her body language!!!! Women are subtle and sometimes body language is the only means you’ve got to knowing what’s going on in their heads… I'm not a fan of all the flicking her hair and that… that’s bollocks… here are a few of my favorites
1. Positioning… if she opens her body to you by turning towards you… it’s a good sign…!!! Shows she’s interested in what you are saying and inevitably you… if her body is facing away from you… hmm… you might as well call the date a day or work on your communication skills… or have a breath mint… (Goes without saying….before any date… freshen your breath, by stopping at the gas station to get some mints!!! I’m not a fan of chewing gum, before when you want kiss you have to get rid of the chewing gum with style, which is not very attractive)
2. Licks her lips… this is unconscious and she doesn’t know she’s doing it and she’s just wetting them for “engagement”
3. Smiles… If she smiles… you need to work out what kinda smile it is… friendly or sexually charged smile… watch her eyebrows… if they are slightly raise… she definitely interested!!!
4. Touching… if she touches you on your arm, wrist or hand… don’t get this twisted… and grab her too!!! Like I said… the finger playing thing… if she plays back… she’s interested… I call it… “The finger interrogation….”
5. The playful…. “You are so dumb….” If it’s not playful… then you doing all the wrong things bruv… fix up!!!
Your body language… it’s so easy how you can ruin your chances by not minding your body language!!!
1. Eye contact… its so important… like they say… the eyes are the windows to the soul… you can send and pick up so much from little changes in eye language…..
2. Lean in when you talk to her… since you start off apart…. Move closer as her defenses start to “soften”…. And SAY SOMETHING….!!! Like a compliment or secret…. This is the time NOT TO OVERDO THE LICKING OF THE LIPS!!!! Once your lips are wet enough… say something into her ears… to make a slight brush… on her ears RESIST STICKING YOUR TOUNGE IN HER EAR OR BITING HER EAR LOBES!!!! THIS IS NOT THE TIME FOR THAT!!!! DON’T FORGET FRESH BREATH!!! CANT STRESS IT ENOUGH!!!
3. Touching….touching is cool as far as you don’t try to touch any dodgy areas!!! I’m not talking about patting on the back… I’m talking about… sweet touching gestures lie… touching her arm…. Or moving a strand of hair (real hair or weave… whichever) out of her face while talking to her… and on your way to the car, bus stop… put your arms around her… she’ll warm up to you… don’t think about it…. Because the more you do… the more you’ll think it’s not appropriate….
THE KISS!!!! That’s the moment you’ve been waiting for…. And you owe it to her to make it feel special… I always say it to women… you should be worried about your man kissing some next woman than sex… kissing is the most intimate form of sexual interaction….! The first kiss is the best part… and the other ones are just routines…!!! Techniques… keep it short and sweet!!! No tongues… just lips…. Then withdraw and say something like “Wow… that was nice….” Before going back for round tow… DON’T GET IT TWISTED… THE FACT THAT SHE’S KISSING YOU DOESN’T MEAN SHE’S ASKING YOU TO TOUCH ALL HER LOVE BUTTONS!!! RESIST THE TEMPTATION!!!!
Savour the moment like “fine wine”… take your time… she’s not going anywhere…. Plus… you should always leave her wanting more… not trying to fight you off….!!! End it this way…. Pretend you’ll kiss her and when she comes the “other 10%” he he he…. Back off… and say… “Hmm… I have to let you go... or else we’ll be here for ages…”
Always works!!!! Good luck in giving that lady… the best date of her life….!!!
Okay the date, the cliché is cinema… I think cinema is cool… u get to be with her and you don’t have to say a word to each other… hmmm… not so fun… the cinema is not a great place for the first date… not unless, you’ll grab something to eat before or after the cinema… so you get to talk…. Cinema has been so oversubscribed it’s become a means to getting “piece”… cinema piece is not great anyway!!! The space is too confined and you’ll be disturbing other people… a date is just a meeting arranged in advance… it could be meeting up for lunch, going to a gallery, eating out… or cinema… most guys give an excuse about going other places is long… and that’s a long ting!... no its not… its just a dumb excuse because you being lazy or don’t know the means in doing stuff like… “Reserving a table at a restaurant…” or “booking tickets for an exhibition”… and you need to learn all this stuff… because as you grow older… cinema won’t always cut it!!!
Okay greetings… wherever and whenever you meet a woman on a date…. NEVER SHAKE HANDS!!!! This is no busy meeting in Tokyo or something…. Reach out and touch her arms and draw her gently towards you (GENTLY!!!)… And give her a QUICK!!!!! Peck on the cheek, don’t slobber over her!!! There at least you’ve got a kiss!!! And say something like… “Nice seen you… you look nice…” Don’t forget the 6 things to compliment... obviously don’t mention all the six!!! After all she’s spent forever getting ready… so the least you can do is notice… don’t forget the hair… (that’s if she made an effort…” you look amazing, I love what you’ve done with your hair….”… she’ll smile… people love other people who make them feel special and welcome… and before you know it… she’ll be warming up to you!!!!
Body language!!! Pay attention to her body language!!!! Women are subtle and sometimes body language is the only means you’ve got to knowing what’s going on in their heads… I'm not a fan of all the flicking her hair and that… that’s bollocks… here are a few of my favorites
1. Positioning… if she opens her body to you by turning towards you… it’s a good sign…!!! Shows she’s interested in what you are saying and inevitably you… if her body is facing away from you… hmm… you might as well call the date a day or work on your communication skills… or have a breath mint… (Goes without saying….before any date… freshen your breath, by stopping at the gas station to get some mints!!! I’m not a fan of chewing gum, before when you want kiss you have to get rid of the chewing gum with style, which is not very attractive)
2. Licks her lips… this is unconscious and she doesn’t know she’s doing it and she’s just wetting them for “engagement”
3. Smiles… If she smiles… you need to work out what kinda smile it is… friendly or sexually charged smile… watch her eyebrows… if they are slightly raise… she definitely interested!!!
4. Touching… if she touches you on your arm, wrist or hand… don’t get this twisted… and grab her too!!! Like I said… the finger playing thing… if she plays back… she’s interested… I call it… “The finger interrogation….”
5. The playful…. “You are so dumb….” If it’s not playful… then you doing all the wrong things bruv… fix up!!!
Your body language… it’s so easy how you can ruin your chances by not minding your body language!!!
1. Eye contact… its so important… like they say… the eyes are the windows to the soul… you can send and pick up so much from little changes in eye language…..
2. Lean in when you talk to her… since you start off apart…. Move closer as her defenses start to “soften”…. And SAY SOMETHING….!!! Like a compliment or secret…. This is the time NOT TO OVERDO THE LICKING OF THE LIPS!!!! Once your lips are wet enough… say something into her ears… to make a slight brush… on her ears RESIST STICKING YOUR TOUNGE IN HER EAR OR BITING HER EAR LOBES!!!! THIS IS NOT THE TIME FOR THAT!!!! DON’T FORGET FRESH BREATH!!! CANT STRESS IT ENOUGH!!!
3. Touching….touching is cool as far as you don’t try to touch any dodgy areas!!! I’m not talking about patting on the back… I’m talking about… sweet touching gestures lie… touching her arm…. Or moving a strand of hair (real hair or weave… whichever) out of her face while talking to her… and on your way to the car, bus stop… put your arms around her… she’ll warm up to you… don’t think about it…. Because the more you do… the more you’ll think it’s not appropriate….
THE KISS!!!! That’s the moment you’ve been waiting for…. And you owe it to her to make it feel special… I always say it to women… you should be worried about your man kissing some next woman than sex… kissing is the most intimate form of sexual interaction….! The first kiss is the best part… and the other ones are just routines…!!! Techniques… keep it short and sweet!!! No tongues… just lips…. Then withdraw and say something like “Wow… that was nice….” Before going back for round tow… DON’T GET IT TWISTED… THE FACT THAT SHE’S KISSING YOU DOESN’T MEAN SHE’S ASKING YOU TO TOUCH ALL HER LOVE BUTTONS!!! RESIST THE TEMPTATION!!!!
Savour the moment like “fine wine”… take your time… she’s not going anywhere…. Plus… you should always leave her wanting more… not trying to fight you off….!!! End it this way…. Pretend you’ll kiss her and when she comes the “other 10%” he he he…. Back off… and say… “Hmm… I have to let you go... or else we’ll be here for ages…”
Always works!!!! Good luck in giving that lady… the best date of her life….!!!
posted by Olan Collardy at 10:55 pm
13 Comments:
girl out there, what would be your ideal "date"? keep it real please, no "walking down a sunny beach in the sunset"!!!
o my days, kelly, u r nang-uve planned it to a tee.
The one thing i hate that guys do is when they ask if they can kiss u-its supposed 2 happen naturally, it annoys me and wen they ask i say no-o well!!!
Cinema is played out but its cheap and it lets the guy get to kno a girl without havin 2 spend 2 much on her, so he wont waste money if it dont work out.
*****
why would you tell the boy to hold back, dont you think your giving boys the wrong message? because next time he tries it with the next girl, she wont respond because she'll think your giving mixed messages!
in my ideal date, i would have to see that the man has actually made effort (gone out of his way to make it that extra special). the man has to take me somewhere extremely special and different, not the same old boring cinema! come on guy's need 2 move on from these kind of dates, there getting boring. I dont know what i would do if another amn came up to me and asked to take me cinema!
hold back and tell her "you'll be here for ages if you dont stop" obviously because you enjoying it get it? keeps her wanting more especially if you are good...
true say NEVER ASK!!! girls if a guy asks you, slap him and say..."how dare you say that that!!!"
and guys if you are really out of ideas and cinema is the only way out...DROP IT LIKE IT'S HOT!!! dont just say... wanna go cinema.. wat film do you wanna see... do your research into the new films out at the cinema and show how intrigued you are by "this film" and how u cant wait to see it... people wont believe in you if u dont believe in yourselve... show her u r more interested in cn the film that "you are in date"...then it appears less to be a "date" but just her accompanying you to see the film... but after the cinema is when you "DROP IT LIKE ITS HOT"
how about..."wow... I never knew it would be so much fun having you here with me... I usually dont go cinema wiv girl cuz they keep on budging in and asking who is who and wats gng on...and u never get to concentrate on the film... but it was different with you... we should meet up and do something different..."
then you've got the ball in her court... she feels she's a princess and so special! girls like to be treated as individuals... plus choose the right film!!! some films just do the job for you and get her into all the sentimental/soppy mood! go for deep films not the new action thriller by vin diesel... comedies are good too...
boi, going out is long, the girl should just come check me at my house, its cheaper and the piece is better
NO LONG TING!
about the girls should come check you @ yard, no long ting. girls refrain form doing this, because this is pulling you down, your worth more than that!
i think that commenter need s to think more like kelly, then maybe the would get more piece, and from a buffer girl as well!!!!!
any1 had a worst date? went on this date one time and the girl smelt like garlic! pieced her without breathing
one one with a better one?
yeah kelly wat u sed is all good, but aint really realistic, i've noticed ur a bit of an idealist....everythings perfect in ur world, u have no flaws y that? and how many gals have u taken to an exhibition,uh? the whole term 'dating' is a bit/? not everyone does it u get me,soemone asked wat woulkd be an ideal date be, for me a guy taking me out and showing me a good time and to treat me like a lady is good enough for me,.... they don't neccessarily need to take me 2 an exhibition, would be nice dow and different but i don't really se eit happening, some1 once wanted to take me to some galley show thing which was cool, caus e he was kinda deep still.....so i think wen it comes to dating....be individual don't take her somewhere u no niuffin bout...but then againg it depends who ur dealing with lil boys i guess cinema acceptable bigge rmans, should be expecting lil more......the cinema is practical dow films come out all the time and peeps wanna see them, at the same time spend time with some1 they like, like killing tow birds with one stone
Boy u dont have to slash out when u have empty pockets on a date. boy...as long as the girl is 'satisfied' at the end of it and she feels special then mission acomplished.
for the question about how many girls ive been to an exhibition or gallery with.. hmm... not too many, but there was one girl i was seen at some point who was into that and it was amazing, so at the end of the day it depends on what ur "girl" is into and wat u r into
and to the person who said u dont have to slash out money... in fact you'll be A FOOL! to spend too much money on a date with a girl with who it might not even work out... many people talk about cinema being cheap... do you know how many places u can go for free??? or for under a fiver... there are bare deals for students as well!!! and im more of a pragmatist... at the end of the day if u aint go money... she can always come to ur house or "your friend's" house!!!
Cinema piece aint good???dats wat u fink Kelly...u dont know bout man like me in the da cinema..deres a lot of things i can teach u kelly..lots..hehe
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