March 9, 2005
Michael had called me again today, and said if I fancied coming round to his place on Saturday night. He said Fiona (his girlfriend) was cooking and thought he should invite me to come round with someone. He'd already invited Mark who was surprisingly coming with someone (wow!!! I wouldn't have believed in a thousand years Mark could have time for such a social occasion)... Byron was coming as well (with someone too... wonder who that'll be)... hmm... is this some "the brothers'" get-together or what? I'd have thought the occasion was Michael proposing to his girlfriend, but he'd already done that...
I remember that day like it was yesterday... it was Fiona's birthday eat-out, last year when she turned 20. Everyone had just finished singing "Happy Birthday To You".... when Michael reached out for something in his shirt's pocket... and everyone must have gone.... "oooOOOOOOHHH...this is it...." and Fiona was getting all happy as well... but it turned out to be his mobile phone... it was so funny... everyone thought he was bringing out a ring! When everyone else had gone... we ("The brothers" including Fiona and
"Looking forward to Saturday then" I said to Michael... "Are you coming with someone...so Fiona can make arrangements..."..."Yeah, I'm seeing this girl called Amerie... kinda special, the kind that doesn’t come every other day..." I said to him.... "Seen, I suppose you getting some, knowing you..." He laughed... "Ana... I taking things cool, like I said she's not any girl...." "Seen, I see her on Saturday then..." We talked for a little while and finished the phone conversation. This should be fun!
I called Amerie up and told her Saturday won’t be possible, she sounded a bit let down and said we could do another day... "Better still, my friend is having a lil' get-together/cook up thing, I'd love to have you there with me" I said... impressed with my last line... look who is trying to be sweet! "That sounds nice... yeah why not?" She said... "I'll pick you up then... chat to you later babe" I said... Okay that’s Saturday sorted!!!
I've been thinking; it’s kinda funny how guys get hung up and get cold feet when trying to ask a woman on a date... I'm not into the whole "date" terminology; I rather just hang out and have fun. What if I was to say you never have to ask a woman out on a date in your life...? There are two approaches... one is to tell her to meet up with you during lunch, then you get to hang out with her (which is what you really want to do anyway, but you think taking her to eat will be a fancy way...HELLO!!! IT’S EXPENSIVE...WHY WASTE MONEY TRYING TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE....!!!???)... or tell her you going to see a film and ask her if she fancies coming with you... better still try to find out what kinda film she likes in the first place!!! In that sense, if she says no... she's the one missing out because at the end of the day, you'll go watch the film whether she comes with you or not!!! Also if you going to a party, wedding, get-together, hanging around with friends... you can also ask her to come with you... in this way she'll get to see the real you and see your inter-personal skills and how you relate with your friends and how your friends relate to you... IT’S CHEAPER AND IT’S MORE FUN!!! than sitting there looking at yourselves and asking yourselves some dumb questions... "hmmm... what's your favourite colour?" or some dumb story about your childhood!!!
The second approach is for the woman to ask you out!!! This doesn't happen everyday and for some guys have never happened to them in their lives!!! come’ on be honest... how many women have asked you out before? For most guys this doesn’t happen!!! except your game is TIGHT!!! as in tttttttTTIGHT!!! There are two main reasons why women don’t call to ask guys out... She doesn’t feel like she's MISSING OUT on something by not being with you!!! and secondly she feels its the "man's job" to ask a woman out.... and for most women, her reality is that men call to ask her out constantly!!! Therefore if a woman feels like she's missing out by not being with you and she inst sure you are going to ask her out then she will almost always make a move and do the asking (or try to hint in some very obvious way!!!)
If a woman feels both interested in you and uncertain about you at the same time, MAGICAL THINGS WILL START TO HAPPEN... TRUST ME... if you can do this in a way that makes a woman feel comfortable with the idea of asking you to "hang out"...you can forget about dealing with the anxiety, fear and possible rejection from asking a woman out!!!! therefore you'll be the one in control!!!! THIS IS POWERFUL...!!!!
All these came to my head... while I was pondering about Amerie asking me out... obviously she's not the first woman to... but she's the first of "her type" to... if I had done the whole "Bang bang" I'm in and I’m out in a second... I'll be any guy to her but I've implanted some intrigue in her HAHAHAH!!!! (laugh of a.... err.... good genius!!!).... mystery is the key to a woman's attention!!! drives them nuts like nothing else!!!
By the way mystery not in terms of a woman asking you how many siblings you've got and you saying...."hmmm.... that'll be telling..." not unless you've got like 25 of them... that's just plain playing stupid... mystery in terms of your character.... you also have to find the right balance because after a while... she might think..."She's guy is missions... cant be bothered..." If she's not worth it...then who cares.... but if she's worth it.... find the right balance....
Afterall... Amerie is worth it!!!
posted by Olan Collardy at 4:34 pm
23 Comments:
WOW Kelly, ya diary getting interestng, in sense that now ya mixing ya everyday issues with advice in the same entry.
WHO IS MICHEAL????????? need 2 meet him! sorry Fiona but i need yr man!
KELLY! Amerie aint going to propose to you! Dont you get it?
She doesn't sound like the kinda girl that would like to be in competition over any guy like you.
I'd say HIT marie then move on to amerie cos she seems like them "long ones"! -daddy's girls
I can forsee Byron walking in with Lisa!
Mark!
Will he get Marie off KELLY & BYRON??
Seems like he's got more charisma than those two!
very refreshing 2 read! i luv this ! kelly how do i lock it of wiv my man if i think im using him, bcos u were saying somthing about this in the 8th of march diary. i actuallly do feel guilty, cos i really dont luv him, that why ifeel im using him. HEEEELLPP
u dont have to love some1 2 be in a relationship with them. you could enjoy their personality so much u want it to be exclusive to u. i would suggest you talk to him about this (obviously he'll be pissed) and try "testing the waters" sometimes we need to see other people to affirm ourselves whether wer really wanna be with some1 or not. so see other people, honesty is the best policy isnt it?
how about use him some more? get some money off him and lets go cinema together!
Ive got a girl and im kinda feeling some nxt girl, wat should I do? im i not cheating on my girl already by liking some next girl even though its still in my head. its crazy, im kissing my girl and im thinking about the next girl!
hummmmmmmmm finding the story funny. my Q. is if i look @ som1 only 4 sex, does tht mean i aint on it, but just 4 sex?
my ques is to the wise one or anyone who can offer help, i was with this girl for timmmmme and we broke up, she did me wrong, watever neway it was never really the same, so obviously we broke up and i'm doing the whole testing the water flex, which is cool, but i still got feelings for her propa and she has for me (i think) but i'm not ready to go back to her, and she doesn't understand she just gets vexed amd annoyed wen she hears ive been with other people and she s like how can u say u care bout me, if i carry on that way, she makes it seem like wat i'm doing is so wrong wat should i do?
to the boy who sed is he just on it or on it 4 sex, boy only u can answer that ques urself really, but if all u wanna do wen u see her is have sex then .....i don't think u really like her, u just WANT her for her body init......and that is not wat u classify as being on someone
communication, communication, communication is the KEY in relationships! if you've still got feelings for her, you need to sit down and think y u dont wanna go back 2 her. Speak 2 her and let her know y u cant be 2gether with her and tell her there's no point in her getting vexed when you are with other people, since you are not together. hence I must warn you, if you keep posting her, thinking you can always have her at the end of the day, if she meets some1 new, you'll be in her shoes as well and get vexed, but as men we try to conceal all these emotions (that's wat the society expects from us) and it might be too late because she might have fallen for that other man.
To the person who broke up wiv der gal, i dont think u need 2 b testing any waters if what u want is der. testing waters is just a dressed up way of saying im a hoe/ slag (whether male or female) and U NO IT. i say this bcos u should be able 2 CONTROL urself, and not go wiv d nt ting u see. dt desparatin and u need 2 sort ursef out, cos u av issues. tink also why u broke wiv ur girl in d frist place. if it 4 reasons other than sexual unfaithfulness/ money: den u cn always work it out if u stil av feeling s 4 her. u need 2 stop gng wit everting dt comes ur way, cos u look like a male hoe and it not necssary and how u girl going 2 believe u gonna b faithful. u ned 2 fix up, and stop being xcited. u ned 2 realise dt what ur doing loks wrong, and u no , othrewsise u won't feel so guilty. if u were a girl it would even be worse (mans wil cuss u off behind ur back), so b thanful u man so it aint dat bad. and FIX UP, LOOK SHARP!!!
I FEEL LIKE CHICKEN 2NITE, LIKE CHICKEN 2NITE. KELLY IM HUNGRY, WATCH OUT!!!
p.s. why is everyone given each other advice, lyk this is sum clinic, iv been a faithful comments reader frm the start and now its just people giving each other advice. im confused is this some sort of forum, or a comments page, or has it turned in2 a forum.b-cos i prefer the first comments, when people were cussing Kelly, thsat so much fun dont u think, my bredrins in college even think so 2. so kelly we need entertainment @ lunch times pls.
-frm a v.confused want 2 no if this is a forum person.
if you dont "test the waters", how on earth are you gng 2 meet some1 new???? think b4 u write comments pls
ps. ders nuffin like a male whore, dont hate, congratulate! dont 4get what kelly said
1 girl + 10 guys = SLUT
1 guy + 10 girls = STUD
simple gender arithmetic!
I FEEL LIKE CHICKEN 2NITE, LIKE CHICKEN 2NITE. KELLY IM HUNGRY, WATCH OUT!!!
p.s. why is everyone given each other advice, lyk this is sum clinic, iv been a faithful comments reader frm the start and now its just people giving each other advice. im confused is this some sort of forum, or a comments page, or has it turned in2 a forum.b-cos i prefer the first comments, when people were cussing Kelly, thsat so much fun dont u think, my bredrins in college even think so 2. so kelly we need entertainment @ lunch times pls.
-frm a v.confused want 2 no if this is a forum person.
y dont you turn into a faithful comments writer then! then you get to see what you want
i jsut been reading all these comments interesting.....especially bout the guy testin waters, us girls got it bad u no, cause theres nuf mans out there who be like they care bout u (to their ex) blah blah blah and still be doing the 'crap' on the side but then still expect to peice the girl(the ex) and wen they r with her they like oh ur special blah blah and wen u aks were is this going or where do i stand.....they be acting like they don't understnad english!!!!! talking bout 'don't be asking me them kinda question or my don't ask question u aint ready for.....HELLO IF THE GIRL AINT READY SHE WOULDN'T ASK!!!!! obviouisly by then teh girl should be like oh he aint serious, but sometimes its so much more complicated and thE guy just keeps coming up with this fake promises or satement, i think boys u need to be more assertive don't be selfsih u can't have ur cake an deat it all teh time....caus ethe resultas aint nice
i just been reading evrything , very interesting especially the guy who was talking bout testing the waters....seen but for real u guys got it easy compared to girls. cause there r bare mans out there in ur situation telling their exes yeah yeah they still care balah balh(and sum still do, but sumjust chatting s**) and the boys r still doing their bit on the side and then they still expect to be peicing the girl (their ex) and the boy keeps talking bout how he cares and rare rare rare.....at this point i no the girl should realise that the boy aint serious but sometimes it much more complicated than that and then when the girl (the ex) comes to the boy when his trying to peice her and is like 'where does this put us' or 'wher edo we stand' the boy be acting like he don't speak english or worse saying 'don't ask me question like dat/or dont ask me quest u aint ready for!!HELLO IF SHE AINT READY SHE WOULDN'T ASK, so to the boy that asked(hope u aint like that) u need to make up ur mind caus eit aint fair, cause someone just end up getting hurt and ur ex is propaply just becoming more emotionally involved wit u, so tell her u want her or tell her u don't........u can't have ur cake and eat it or if its really complicated let her no what the deal is. and ladies don't always be so guliable.
i just been reading evrything , very interesting especially the guy who was talking bout testing the waters....seen but for real u guys got it easy compared to girls. cause there r bare mans out there in ur situation telling their exes yeah yeah they still care balah balh(and sum still do, but sumjust chatting s**) and the boys r still doing their bit on the side and then they still expect to be peicing the girl (their ex) and the boy keeps talking bout how he cares and rare rare rare.....at this point i no the girl should realise that the boy aint serious but sometimes it much more complicated than that and then when the girl (the ex) comes to the boy when his trying to peice her and is like 'where does this put us' or 'wher edo we stand' the boy be acting like he don't speak english or worse saying 'don't ask me question like dat/or dont ask me quest u aint ready for!!HELLO IF SHE AINT READY SHE WOULDN'T ASK, so to the boy that asked(hope u aint like that) u need to make up ur mind caus eit aint fair, cause someone just end up getting hurt and ur ex is propaply just becoming more emotionally involved wit u, so tell her u want her or tell her u don't........u can't have ur cake and eat it or if its really complicated let her no what the deal is. and ladies don't always be so guliable.
why cant all guys be like Micheal?
why da hell has the conversation switched back to micheal. i would like to remind you that this is Kellylonge not micheal longe. so therefore
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