Raheem's dilemma

<>A Sugarlounge reader says,

For many guys, it is hard to tell whether that ‘special’ girl that you’re trying to get with really likes you or is just playing games with your head i.e. leading you on.

You see, some guys comment and say that women do not know what they really want and are just confused. To an extent this may be true, according most men that is.

It also goes down in the ‘book of relationships’ that men are the ones who run game on women and men don’t know how to open up their feelings. It is quite interesting to think how out-of-date that statement is. Of course it still happens but times are RAPIDLY changing and women are getting much smarter. Back in those ‘How to be a player days’ men could have like 10 different girlfriends and juggle them nicely, making each girl feel special as if they were the only one in the mans life.

Many girls have been hurt badly in the past (guys too), hence why they are so scared to commit to relationships with boys because all of them work out be the same at the end of the day so they use this as an excuse to lead boys on.

I know a friend of mine who has liked this girl for a while now and is still where he is when he first started talking to the girl. Getting with other girls is not a problem for him but this one girl is just slowing down his game seriously. By the way his name is Raheem and the dream girl Adelle. Raheem has made many attempts to show Adelle that he likes her but it’s like she keeps running ‘Hot and Cold’ on him i.e. one minute she’s all over him and the next she barely says a word to him when they see each other. Raheem has actually told her that he liked her and asked for her number but unfortunately she turned him down. Raheem later discovered that Adelle gave her number to one of his close friends. His friend knows that Raheem has had a thing for Adelle for some time now so he layed back and never really phoned her, though he was the one that asked for her number. I can’t really say that Adelle doesn’t like Raheem doesn’t like Raheem because every time they talk her body language is saying ‘I want you’ yet she takes it easy and has still NEVER really opened up to Raheem . He’s really frustrated because he doesn’t know what Adelle wants and she is not exactly trying to lead him away but leading him on instead.

Why do women play games like this? I know you’re thinking that Raheem is sad and should move on, but it’s not that easy when you are trying to talk to a girl that you really like and she’s not responding back to you. Some of the guys might be thinking that Adelle is too ‘stush’ and Raheem doesn’t have the ‘game’ to soften her up-tight attitude. Maybe Raheem will never fulfill his objective, which is to get with Adelle because he has used like a million strategies to get at her, you never know, Adelle might be a lesbian, not like Raheem in that way or as been hurt badly in the past and doesn’t want to rush into things but in time she may come around.

It all comes down to experience when trying to understand the minds of the opposite sex. There is no scientific formula that is used to get someone to like, but in cased like Raheem’s, it is not a crime to fight fire with fire and stir the person in your direction with a little thing called ‘game’.

Have you had any past experiences such as Raheem’s? And how did it go? Share your views about Raheem’s situation on the comments.